Ezinne, being a teenager was under pressure by Zeb to befriend him.
She had tried to avoid him on several counts but he always seemed to show up all the time.
Her heart had begun skipping when Zeb showed up; this was new to her and she barely knew how to handle it.
She was sure she did not want to befriend him but she was unsure about how not to come off as offensive.
She did not want to report him to her mom; she felt she would be seen as a ‘baby’ if her mother came reporting it at school.
Being a teenager comes with expectations, respect, rights and responsibility.
This stage also comes with awareness of the consequences of certain choices.
I got Ezinne calm and made her understand why a trusted adult needed to be involved.
While showing love and understanding, in a non-judgemental manner, I let Ezinne know this was normal at her age.
Using her interests, values, beliefs and goals, we were able to create possible solutions using the problem at hand. This led to a ‘Win’ situation.
Ezinne had learned how to negotiate with the Zeb and confidently say what she wanted. A trusted adult was involved, Ezinne had learned to confide in the adult and Ezinne came out of that conflict.
You don’t need to be told that Zeb respected himself!
I love teens, I love teens health.
Your favourite family physician,