So I was invited to share a few tips with the ladies and I went asking them how the tempo goes in the bedroom.
By that I meant, what ladies said to their partners. I asked them if it was just ‘hush hush,’ and ‘holy holy.’
You are learning to master the bedroom, learing about sexy lingerie, but what about the pillow talk?
To ease you into the sexy banter, I have suggestions for shy ladies:
Dirty talk does feel scary. It can make you feel ‘unholy’ or ‘unclean’. People will often clam up and say within themselves ‘I can’t do that’ but hey, it’s really just another way to express yourself in the bedroom to your man, nothing more! Ladies can use lingerie or just their voice, but best of all, it’ll be totally unique to you. Ladies can be soft and sleek and still a little naughty, or racy and raunchy and way out there, and anywhere in the middle! It’s really just another way to heighten foreplay, add adventure, and actually get what you want in bed.
Dirty talk is a combination of the words you’re saying, how you say it, and the mood you’ve set. Use your voice the way you’re moving your body. Talk softly, look at each other or close your eyes if you feel more comfortable. You don’t want to be laughing hysterically while you describe what you’re about to do to your man, but it’s okay to be silly and giggle a little if that’s how you feel.
You don’t need to start with anything extreme. Something as innocent as ‘I love the way your tongue feels on my skin’ obviously means a whole lot more. If that’s still too much, just whisper into his ears. The heat of your breath and a few sultry words is incredibly scintillating.
A lot of ladies are afraid or uncertain to ask for what they want, and it’s important to translate what feels good and what’s going to bring you satisfaction into words. Doing that in a fun, sexy, and frisky way is dirty talk! Be confident, and discover a little bit of your inner bad girl.
I will be sharing more subsequently, do keep tabs!
Have a scintillating Sunday.
I love you, I love your he.alth.
Your favourite family physician,